Men Not in Church II

This has been an intriguing post. I had a woman whose husband does not enjoy church come up to me Sunday and ask, "Can we start serving breakfast before church? Men love to eat. Maybe it would help my husband." She was unaware of this conversation. Food is good I agree. I'm not sure our agreement with Ramada will let us bring in food from home or cook it at the hotel.

My wife and I helped her dad host The Glenn Miller Orchestra in Casey last Friday night. It was a fun night. I took tickets at the door. I forget that I get a kick out of interacting with people like that. Anyway, the interest to this post was a comment my wife made. There were a handful of people who came to the concert to dance. The most exciting dancers were the Swing dancers.

My wife's comment was "Wow, I love the swing dancers. I would love to hang with them... if only they weren't so weird." First of all, they looked weird. They were dressed odd. But I'm a cultured person, I understand that they were only dressed like that because they were in "swing dance" dress. Actually, no... they were weird. We talked with a few of them. Odd.

This is what I think many men feel about the church. "The God thing is really cool. I'd like to hang out with those who believe as I do... but they are so weird."

How do we connect with men? How do we connect with what is important to men?

It struck me this morning that I often use a book by Willard Harley called His Needs/Her Needs. He lists the top five needs of a man.

1. Sexual fulfillment - The Bible attests to this truth about men.
2. Recreational Companionship
3. Attractiveness of Spouse
4. Domestic Support
5. Admiration

We can't help much with #1. But #2 we could give a lot more thought to. #3 we've actually helped when two of our beauticians did a makeover night. Trying not to be shallow, they did some pretty cool stuff for some of our women. #4 maybe can't help. #5 absolutely.

There is one couple that I really want to come to Crossover. They have come a couple of times. But it seems like after every time they come, I go over and talk with them, and she immediately starts reading me a laundry list of his faults. "Fix him please." How embarrassing. If I were him, I wouldn't put myself in a situation like that very often.

Maybe we should have "Respect Month" once a year. Not sure how Biblical that is, but the Bible tells wives to Respect their husbands.